Tuesday, September 27, 2011

The Four Hardest Words

It's not the load that breaks you down,
it's the way you carry it. 
~Lena Horne

I sit and watch THE DIVA figure things out. She wants to do everything herself. She gets mad if she can't figure it out. She gets mad if she can't something to do exactly what she wants. She gets fiercely mad. (I wonder where she gets that from?? Shut up) And she is so proud of herself when it all works out to her DIVA satisfaction.  But the one thing she, 9 times out of 10, will refuse to say is, "Can you help me?"
I know exactly whom she gets that lovely trait from. I'm a do it myself girl. I hate hate asking for help. Relying on other people? No thanks. 

Oh but the Boy Wonder has taught me, I must ask for help. I can not do this alone. It has gotten easier not quite 4 years in to ask for help for him. 

And now almost 4 years in, I am learning to ask for help for me. From the Mamas. From a few other very special people.

If you're just starting out on this road, ask for help. Take help that's offered. If not for you, do it for your kids. In watching THE DIVA struggle and refusing to ask for help, I've learned I need to ask so she can learn to ask for help.


  1. This made me cry.

    I am learning, too.

    I love you so much it hurts, Mama. Good hurts ;0)

  2. No crying or I'll get the chicken. Cluck Cluck. xoxoxo

  3. A good teacher is also a good student. You are both. And an awesome mom...to ALL your children. Love you. xoxo

  4. This made me cry too. I could never ask for help before I met all of you. You all teach me every day.

    And if you get that chicken, I will smell your eyeballs. So there.

  5. It's hard to ask for help. I have no problem asking for help for the Roc, it's me, but I'm learning. I've got good teachers. xo

  6. Those ARE the four hardest words. Little by little, I'm getting better at saying them. But I still have to work at it! xoxo

  7. yes. i am still learning this too. but it is a good, good thing to ask for help. let others be blessed by the wonder of your boy.

  8. It is soooo hard to ask for help. To admit to not being able to do it all. To carry the load alone and with dignity. My son has taught me to do just that and to admit that I cannot do it alone. Thank you so much for sharing with other moms who struggle and juggle just like you.